What separates people who think their way through life’s challenges and those who cannot? As I grow older, I fall back on a rather simple distinction. The quality of the inner voice. People often create difficulties for themselves when their inner voices give them conflicting, overly emotional, overly negative, or just irrelevant ideas.
Csikszentmihalyi calls this “psychic entropy” and one of his core ideas is that we all produce psychic entropy. It is normal. But some of us are better at managing it than others. Meeting challenges requires managing psychic entropy.
So how does one manage psychic entropy? You can read Cshikszentmihalyi’s book “Flow” to get some ideas. Or you can practice on your own.
Here is one way to do that. Jeeves is a character created by P.G. Wodehouse. In short, Jeeves is a valet. Not just a valet, but a very clever valet. He always has the solution to the problem that his master gets into. His master, Bertie Wooster is always getting into problems that he cannot get out of. So, from a story telling point of view, they are a brilliant match.
here is the thing. Jeeves has complete control of his psychic entropy. And you can practice being Jeeves to see what it feels like. Just do it. If you need a clue, watch this video.