We have begun to recognize that in the balance between rational and emotional selves, emotions rule. Subtly, of course, but we use reason as a tool for emotional well being. Not the other way around. So the idea of “emotional intelligence” is gaining traction in the media, as it should.
What is emotional intelligence? One source put it this way
Emotional intelligence is our ability to understand, interpret, and respond to the emotions of others. This is essential for effective communication, which should be a give and take between two people.
Well, the article is about communication, so you can understand the emphasis on others. It is also the ability to understand, interpret and respond to our own emotions.
How do we do that? The first step is to be mindful of our emotions. To see them as part of the self rather than defining the self. Once we begin to see an emotional portrait of ourselves, we can begin thinking more clearly how we can use these in the adventure of living.